Most of the blogs I see about fibromyalgia are all about how you live with the disease. Yeah, that's not me. I'm the type to pick at the bandaid. To chafe to be free of it. A friend of mine had a husband who was prescribed the same pain medicine prescribed for me; one of the side effects was growing tumors, which kept me from taking it. I always seemed to have problems with side effects and was too scared to try it. He took it, and developed a tumor at the site of the injury he was taking the pain medication for. He died of that tumor after it metastasized to his brain. I couldn't take NSAIDs for pain relief either so I was in a lot of pain over the years, which made me highly motivated to solve the problem.
I noticed some interesting things about that pain because I was forced to live with it:
What made the pain better?
Check out my YouTube channel for videos on how to do some simplified acupressure for emotional release. The most helpful type for me was and still is PanHarmonic Healing (PHH.) If you find it helpful and want to learn more, I teach PHH.
Believe in yourself. You have the ability to heal. The biggest thing you can do is be as kind to yourself every day as you can. We all have trauma; life can be hard. Your childhood trauma is active until you integrate it. You can do it, bit by bit. Self love and self kindness is key.
"Who Moved My Cheese" is an insanely popular book, selling over 26 million copies at last count. It's an easy read, and it gives great insights into how the different parts of our minds react to change, allowing us to step in and help ourselves along the path as we cope with our fear of change. Cheese is a metaphor for happiness and success.
Some of us who've had traumatic childhoods can identify with the teachings in this book:
"If you do not change, you can become extinct." I learned this one the hard way. A traumatic childhood can lead to fear and caution. The more one is on the alert, the more we can find to fear. Eventually, we can exhaust the body. Our adrenals crash and burn. Our health suffers. We often develop chronic illness.
"The quicker you let go of old cheese, the sooner you find new cheese." We often have a hard time accepting change because the old way is comfortable and familiar. New ways of doing things can seem threatening to our unconscious, but we are here to work through healing our childhood wounds, and must learn how to become more flexible. If not, see above. We can exhaust the body and develop illness.
"What would you do if you weren't afraid?" The old me would have had no idea the answer to this one because I was always afraid until I started learning a type of specialized kinesiology- a form of acupressure- called PanHarmonic Healing® back in 2014. It has completely changed my life. Why hasn't everyone who lives with anxiety, depression, anger or any other emotional issue taken classes in PanHarmonic Healing? Because it is new cheese. People want to stick to old cheese when they are stuck in their primitive and emotional brain. I understand. I did too until I got so sick I started to feel like I was dying. That made me open to trying to new things.
"When you stop being afraid, you feel good!" I thought I needed to be afraid to make sure I was safe, but I was totally wrong. It feels amazing to stop being afraid! If you suffer from anxiety, take baby steps towards giving up fear. I found that fear is an addiction, just as much as alcohol or drugs are. I had to lay down that pattern to step into the life I wanted to lead. It was hard-- I was rewarded for being afraid, and my marriage ended when I stopped being afraid--but the life I have now is beyond anything I could have dreamed before. The effort I made has repaid itself countless times over the years.
"Imagining yourself enjoying yourself with your new cheese leads you to it." This is a Law of Attraction concept, one that I highly recommend practicing. We call in what we are visualizing. The only thing that interferes with this is that our old emotional holdings are broadcasting signals to the world that people react to on an unconscious basis. In other words, it's taken both visualizing and cleaning up old emotional baggage using acupressure to get me the results that I've wanted.
"Old beliefs do not lead you to new cheese." So true. Old beliefs keep us stuck in old patterns, preventing growth and happiness. The problem was that- pardon my language- sometimes I sucked at believing new beliefs. It just felt impossible to change sometimes. The compromise I worked out is that when I find myself not believing the new beliefs--usually some form of believing that I could change or that the situation could change from what I'd always encountered-- I would instead work on not knowing the outcome of a situation. Being certain of an outcome is the way we call in the old ways. Being open to not knowing allows the Universe to work its magic just as visualizing does. It's an interim step to being good at visualizing.
"When you see that you can find and enjoy new cheese, you change course." This is also helpful to know because the more we change, the more we are able to change. The increased rate of change can feel so rewarding. You've worked hard to unlock a better future; you've earned it!
"Noticing small changes early helps you adapt to the bigger changes that are to come." Yes, noticing small changes early helps us expect and then plan for change. And far better to learn to adapt than to resist change. I look to change old patterns that aren't serving me wherever I can--one way is to change up the routes that I drive. What are the ways you adapt to change?
I hope these quotes from the book inspire you to grab a copy of Who Moved My Cheese? today. It's a great book and can be an invaluable life tool. And I hope I've helped explain PanHarmonic Healing a little better. It's something I teach, most recently at the 2019 Brain Gym® (Breakthroughs International®) conference in San Diego.
Another shooting incident at a high school leads to the by now all-too-familiar triage of support trying to cope with the aftermath. But it's not enough:
"Among kids exposed to traumatic violence, short-term symptoms immediately after such incidents include trouble focusing, managing emotions, and negotiating relationships. The effects of childhood trauma also show up later in life: As adults, children who witnessed violence will be more likely to suffer from depression, deal with substance abuse, and struggle with obesity."1
The long-term effects include far more than the few listed. As adults, those of us exposed to traumatic violence are more likely to suffer from illness, anxiety, employee absenteeism, and ultimately a shortened lifespan. It raises our risk levels on the ACE test, a test of childhood adversity. Why? Because these events are locked in our body until we process and release the emotional learning around them. Emotional learning is the most important evolutionary advantage for a social species like humans, and not one drop of it is wasted. We're not taught how to learn emotionally; in fact, we are taught to stuff emotions and move on. These emotions are neurochemicals that lodge in our bodies. In quantity, neurochemicals are inflammatory and inflammation leads to disease, so we're more likely to develop illness if we have traumatic backgrounds. Still, people self-medicate. Delving into the unconscious seems too scary.
But what if you could easily learn from emotions? What if they're not just a hodgepodge of random, tangled-up bad feelings? What if feeling them reduces your stress? What if doing this allows you to do better on tests, perform better at work, reduces pain, reduces the amount of time you spend sick, and increases your emotional intelligence? That's what I've found acupressure does. I've used myself as a guinea pig. I'm a poster child for childhood trauma; my dad was an active duty US Air Force C-130 pilot in the Vietnam War and I was born during the war. I was constantly sick, I had chronic Epstein Barr, I had leaky gut, I had an autoimmune illness. I'm convinced this is what humanity needs to keep evolving: spending more time in the cortex and prefrontal cortex. Stress puts us into the brain stem and emotional brain. It has us in survival mode. Success belongs to those in cortex-mode, which is executive thinking.
Care to try it? Check out my YouTube channel. I demonstrate some basics that will have you making improvements in your quality of life immediately.
I also teach it. You can sign up for one class or for the series. Check out my classes in PanHarmonic Healing® here, in Brain Gym® here, and in Touch for Health here. I think all three make the best combination for self-healing I've found.
For most of us, childhood held some trauma. Why not give yourself the gift of freedom from the past? You'll still be yourself; you'll just get to spend more and more time in a good head space, relaxed, and experiencing more joy than you thought was possible.